Sure, there were reasons for breaking up-either by you or them but the truth of the matter is that breaking up is hard to do no matter who's idea it was. The process of going from "us" to "me" can include many emotional fluctuations wherein one moment you are fine and then the next moment you are in tears because you heard a certain song on the radio.
But the fact is that all of this unpredictable behavior is normal- in fact grieving the end of a relationship can look an awful lot like grieving a death. Psychology Today has an article out about "The 7 Stages of Grieving a Breakup". When you are in the midst of grieving a break up it is hard to imagine that you will ever be the same again-let alone ready to date again! But you can, you just have to be kind to yourself (easier said than done, I know). Beating yourself up for the feelings you are having just delays the healing process. Feelings doing go away just because you said so. Sure, they may abate for a little bit but if they have not been fully seen they will come calling again.
If you are ready to let your feelings be seen and heard in a safe and supportive space so you can move on with our life (dating or otherwise), please give me a call for a free phone consultation.
But the fact is that all of this unpredictable behavior is normal- in fact grieving the end of a relationship can look an awful lot like grieving a death. Psychology Today has an article out about "The 7 Stages of Grieving a Breakup". When you are in the midst of grieving a break up it is hard to imagine that you will ever be the same again-let alone ready to date again! But you can, you just have to be kind to yourself (easier said than done, I know). Beating yourself up for the feelings you are having just delays the healing process. Feelings doing go away just because you said so. Sure, they may abate for a little bit but if they have not been fully seen they will come calling again.
If you are ready to let your feelings be seen and heard in a safe and supportive space so you can move on with our life (dating or otherwise), please give me a call for a free phone consultation.
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